Marriage allows me to show my love in a way that nothing else can. He said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” (Genesis 2:18). One or both of you will wind up miserable and resenting each other. If you're deeply unhappy with someone but you think his proposal will change things, it won't. There’s something about commitment that changes everything. But that also means there’s an opportunity for you both to a) figure out what each other’s needs are and b) learn how to get your needs met and meet the needs of the other person. We work at not only being friends but being lovers and loving God, and I can only imagine that the reward will increase exponentially. He isn’t clear on his beliefs about God though he’s served at church for years. Well, married, Christian women have better sex than single women–or even married women who aren’t believers. Marriage can be great! We can talk. Copyright 2008-2020 Sheila Wray Gregoire. I can’t speak to all of the disciples (although that sounds truly horrible), but Paul’s reference to marrying a believing wife like Peter had definitely sounds like a current thing to me. Otherwise, be prepared to deal with either a very short, tumultuous marriage or a very long, miserable marriage. Get healthy. I have not always been happy in my marriage. What do you think? I don’t know if Paul’s wife came with him or not. But I can tell you that my life is richer because I am married. My husband and I are growing together each day, even though we are different we both, deep in our hearts love the Lord and want to please Him and thats all you need! "A woman in good shape and good health, so she can have healthy children with me. While I do believe that you should seek to hear who God is telling you to marry, I do not believe that God would call you to marry someone you do not want to marry.. Familiarize yourself with how emotional needs work so you can better get yours met and meet the needs of others. So it’s totally likely that the wives were there, since the early church was definitely not just male (and actually was likely majority female for a time). There are many reasons why some women don’t want to get married, and they range from wanting to focus on other things to simply just not wanting to be … You should be marrying someone who’s not just an ideal romantic partner for you, they’re also your friend. As someone who struggles with mental health issues I sometimes wonder if I will ever marry. But you’re also a team, working towards the same goals. Are you afraid of being left alone in times like this? I just want to encourage anyone else in a similar situation! Singleness those who are not called singleness is very tiring. How can I worship God and continue to sleep with my partner knowing he may never marry me or ever know the Lord? Because you remind me of my worth and give me a reason to smile every damn day. I am constantly telling married people who tell me this that yes it’s hard but you get to work out those hard problems with someone. A study suggests that 23% of bachelors go a year without having sex, whereas only 1% of people in wed-lock go dry for a whole year. I’ve spoken all over the country with my Girl Talk and I’ve been in so many different churches over the last few years, and I’ve seen some honest to goodness amazing ones. I find such overwhelming joy in my 2 little ones and as a stay at home mother their company throughout the day is a true gift from God. To have someone to "complete" you. Instead of telling them that they’re a heartless fuckface who only cares about themselves, you should probably try to understand why you’re so hurt in the first place and address that with them. You don’t get a gold star and extra warm cookies on the plane just because you’re married. Just because something takes work and there are ups and downs and there are times when we are angry and times when we are lonely does not mean that marriage is bad. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t take work. Do people make more money and become healthier after they marry, or does financial success and physical health make marriage an easier relationship to find? And like any project worth doing in life, it can be challenging at times, but it should also be exciting and, in the end, worth it for both of you. And yes, I’m even sexually satisfied because I am married! In fact, I think marriage is far more powerful because it takes work. This is a timely post for me, because I’ve been asking myself this question a lot – is it worth it to get married? But if that were true, then we would expect married people to show detrimental signs, and single people to be better off. You report higher rates of happiness and lower rates of depression. You slip on ice and break your foot and you can’t make meals or do laundry for six weeks. He Doesn’t Run Away During the Hard Times. We welcome your comments and want this to be a healthy discussion forum! I quit dating years ago once I realized I was too old for kids and even if lucky enough to find one of the 6 Christian single men my age in North America it would not be a happy or affectionate marriage. While married life is not always sunshine and butterflies, a majority of married couples have lower levels of stress hormones than most cohabiting couples or single individuals show. The earliest church literature records how Peter’s wife died. I hear that statistic about 80% of marriages are happy. That doesn’t mean it starts out great. Marriage is great, but it should never be idolized. You get a wake up next to someone every morning, you have someone to call when your car breaks down or when any problem arises. If instead, you feel like the other person is always interfering with your independence, then you either have a mismatch in values (see above) or you have some avoidant tendencies you need to deal with (see my article on attachment styles). Billions of people have done it. The possible reasons why he doesn’t want to marry you are endless, and honestly, they don’t even matter. Why would we miss out on one of God’s greatest blessings just because our culture has made it seem ugly? The fact is that a marriage isn’t going to work unless both people are in it for each other and no one else. I am not married yet. I am so tired of hearing that. Your kids do better on every scale. It hurts me so much to know that he thinks marriage will all be bad. Interesting history. If I have someone I want to be with, I'll just be with them. It doesn’t mean that every marriage will be wonderful. What a blessing marriage is! So, marriage really does lead to a happier and less stressed lifestyle. Not true! It never has been. But if you ask parents what their greatest source of joy is, they’ll tell you it’s their family. The Honeymoon Course is here to help you plan the perfect honeymoon and start your marriage (and your sex life!) Not perfect, but not just so-so roommates either?”, she has never had anyone answer higher than 50%. Men want to marry women they get along with. All your problems are your own and when you’re married you share those problems. For immigration purposes. It’s a project, not an obligation. Like, some people see marriage as a status symbol, so they get married thinking they’ll parade around town with their spouse and people will bow in their presence like they just conquered Westeros or something. In the book The Case for Marriage, Linda Waite and Maggie Gallagher lay out all the research on marriage, and show that it has tremendous benefits. For men, getting married has the equivalent health bonus of quitting smoking. Most arguments in relationships come from a misunderstanding of emotional needs. As you well know through your blog readers, most marriages are unhappy (and saturated with adultery, porn, sexless, abusive) because everyone goes into them believing you can be in love with and sexually attracted to the same person your whole life. Stop and ask yourself this about your relationship: are your lives going in the same direction and do you share similar values? People are also wealthier after they marry, and it’s not just that wealthy people marry. And then no one “wins.”. I know many in that generation who honestly have come through unscathed. You don't want to mess with the whole last name thing. This doesn’t seem to be the case w/ 23 or 33 year old men. But that doesn’t mean that all churches are like that. #11. If you’re around a ton of men who do, then perhaps it’s time to look for a different church community, because it is out there. If they would do it again–if they keep having kids–there must be something profound that is worth all that work. I believe it was Lydia, but could be mistaken. Why is it so hard to believe that women were present in ministry with their husbands? Images via Getty Images. After working with dozens of couples on this issue, I’ve put together two checklists below that summarize everything. —James, 45 But when there’s commitment, it’s easier to work on problems. Also, thank you for stressing the joy of motherhood/parenthood! They are only with you such a short time too before they are off on their own. On the contrary–there are very good reasons to get married, and I think marriage is wonderful (when we do it right!). There are plenty of examples of women that were involved in ministries. Nothing less allows you the complete openness required for spiritual intimacy. Whatever it is, getting married to prove something to someone—or yourself—is a god awful reason to do it. I came across it while randomly surfing the web for good reasons to get married. I often want to wave a giant neon flag at them shouting, “Don’t do it!” because getting married for the wrong reasons can have dire consequences–not just emotionally, but financially, as well. Again, fights are inevitable, so you need to make sure you’re fighting well before you get married. That sounds like my kind of challenge: showing people that marriage IS worth it! Not chronic self-imposed victimization from things like feminism. And not just porn, that’s just an example. A fact of any long-term relationship is that romance dwindles, sexual desire comes and goes, and life just happens sometimes. It is hard to get into and hard to get out of, for great reason. Thus the embarrassment of trying to change her name to Junias, a name that didn’t even exist, in many translations. As for whether you can still get married, I know several women who have gotten married for the first time in their 40s! Let me know in the comments! I feel as if I can’t even speak to that, because I haven’t walked through it, and I just want you to know that I’m sorry if I’ve ever made single people feel “less than”. As a single 29 year old women I long to be married and many married people I meet tell me to stay single, to not rush in to finding a mate because marriage is so difficult and there are so many problems. The apostle Peter, after all, was married (and his wife was crucified with him). Marriage means more and better sex! The Top Posts of 2020 on To Love, Honor and Vacuum! We’ve done a ton together. The first few years were tough. Totally agree–we’re all part of His plan. Married people do better on every scale. I have always been positive about the prospect of marriage but today, I noticed that my mindset on marriage was not my usual. I met the love of my life and we’re getting married very soon. It may sound like a big "duh," but if you're thinking you might want to marry someone, you should like him as well as love him. At one point she’s discussing the guilt that we often put on single people, telling them, “You need to let God meet all your needs.” Sort of the “let Jesus be your boyfriend” mentality. You’ll probably lose it even more. I’ll tell you what: then you’re stuck in a marriage trying to figure out if it was worth it after all. Check it out. She certainly worked among the Apostles, being known to the Apostles, as Paul writes in Romans 16:7. Meant to type “*not* being contrary…” But few people know that there are some pretty clear signals to know if a relationship is going to work or not. We love your comments, and want this to stay a safe place for you! For me, self-marriage was a really deep act of self-acceptance. “Is he making me happy? He is terrified of marriage. It’s rough typing on a phone. Not many of us were never that fortunate though. We are in this together! But truly I can say that God has shaped us into better versions of ourselves through marriage and after some rough patches in the first two years, we are on our third year and all the work and tough lessons are paying off so much that we spend 95% of our time enjoying each other and each other’s company, maybe only 5% or less being annoyed with each other over stupid things, never really having big fights or spending more than an hour of time being upset at each other. Like you said – if it’s just a relationship based on feelings, then the relationship is constantly at stake. A healthy relationship is not a relationship without arguments. But I'm aware I've changed a lot in the past few years and I don't know how I will change in the future. Lots of people ask me which books I’d recommend for understanding and creating better relationships that can lead to a healthy marriage. But I don’t think God calls most people to be single. Jesus can never be your boyfriend or girlfriend because we was never intended to be. "For example, at one point some women were treated as property of their husbands and weren't allowed to vote. He has mentioned there acts in the Bible, letting their names be known for generations. Signs He Doesn’t Want To Marry You Sign One: The Crazy Exes! Sometimes it’s a little more subtle but just as fucked up. The first reason I do not believe God would call you to marry someone you don’t like is because within the Bible marriage is not a command for all people. So don’t believe everything out culture tells us. And the result? You’re healthier. It reminded me of a post that I ran a little while ago, which I’m going to edit and update today and run again for top 10 Tuesdays, because I think it’s important. And not only are most people happy; most people, when asked “what is your greatest source of happiness?”, answer “my marriage.”. We know from Scripture that he traveled with his wife; Jesus healed his wife’s mother; early Christian documents said that she was crucified with Peter. 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You make more money. Many scholars reject the claim that she was an Apostle, as do I. We are very in love and supportive of each other. I know that there are lots of toxic ones, and the toxic ones are often very large. Tired of church people heartlessly making that assumption.). I’ve never heard that before. Years ago, I thought of myself as someone who would probably never get married. After this encounter Peter turned around, went back to Rome, and was arrested. Great article. "It is a symbolic gesture of our love and commitment to one another. Thanks Sheila, your article was what I really needed to hear. Want to Know When Sheila is Speaking Near You? Even though it makes them tired, costs them a fortune, and makes them worry. But it does mean that marriage, as an institution, is worth it. I just don’t see why it’s a big deal and why Eric wants to argue about it when it’s established church history. That is unless they would be happy living a life as a secretary staying in a rooming house or a school teacher staying out behind the school. I love snuggling. Marriage opens up doors for ministry because sometimes you need to be a team. I received this question from a young reader: You’ve probably read that millennials really don’t feel the need to marry. Maybe I am contrary and it was a Freudian slip! So why would any man want to get married to someone that is not happy? Because all your friends are married. Parents get older and need care. And I think WAY too many people have the mindset that in order to have a strong marriage, you have to unload your children onto somebody else on a regular basis in order to focus on your marriage. Priscilla and Aquila are an example of a couple who evangelized together. That said I have never heard or read anywhere that St. Peter’s wife was crucified with him. When I married I couldn’t hide my selfishness anymore. The Best To Love, Honor and Vacuum Podcasts of 2020 →, The Most Debated Posts on To Love, Honor and Vacuum in 2020! It seems to me that the early church was simply in love with Christ and wanted to see the world changed, and so they just focused on getting the job done. So we do have to be careful. Signs He Does Not Want to Marry You. Either way, you need to work this out before getting married. Because such horrible behaviors have become normalized. Once someone is married, he/she is free to be with an interesting person practically all the time. Essentially, if one of you has to give up on your dreams, your career, your passions, it’s just not going to work. The younger generation does struggle with porn much more than the older generation does. But, in that 10 year period God has changed me, and I wouldn’t trade any of it for an easier life because He used it all to bring my bride and I together. Basically, when you get married, things can get even better if they’re already good, but they only get worse if they’re already bad. Not because I spent my youth sleeping around. Let’s explore this letter writer’s assumptions just a bit more. If you don’t have respect for one another, you won’t gain it by getting married. I’m just sort of thinking out loud, so to speak. The people I know who are trying to get out of horrible marriages that can’t be fixed are all from that upbringing. Of course, you recognize and respect one another’s autonomy. Throw in some male-headship/Patriarchy (or whatever the next wave of anti-Feminists want to call themselves), and you have a truly toxic situation. You’ve probably heard this before but no one is going to be happy being with you if you can’t be happy being by yourself. Leave your dead-end job and get serious about your career. by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 10, 2017 | Marriage, Preparing for Marriage | 42 comments. I longed so badly for a husband when I was single and admit I did have those false expectations that marriage would fulfill things that really only God can fill. 12. But that doesn’t mean that only single people can do ministry! We've got 10 good reasons why you should pop the question, though. That’s encouraging to hear. You have someone who understands your pain. Sex is meant to be intimate physically, as well as emotionally. And maybe most importantly, you think in terms of “we” and “us” and not “you” and “me.” This is a product of having shared values that manifests as a solid, loving friendship. With all the definitions of marriage changing (like gay marriage, etc), why get married? I am a less selfish person because I am married. Finally, for the vaguest and perhaps most unhelpful (or most helpful, depending on how you look at) advice: When you meet the one God wants you to marry, you will just know. A marriage—and any relationship, really—is something that is created by two people. Thank you for this. Aw, there ain’t nothin’ wrong with a little contrariness now and then. Married people do better on every scale. 1. Reader Question: My Husband Doesn’t Think our Sex Life is Good Enough, Wifey Wednesday: How an Argument Revealed More about Me than My Husband, The Best To Love, Honor and Vacuum Podcasts of 2020. Here are a few rock-solid signs he doesn’t want to marry you. But for a lot of us, it’s really hard to take an objective look at our own motivations and see them for what they really are. Yes, it’s work. For money. When you’re married to someone, you’re not just responsible for yourself. He is afraid of commitment. You can opt out at any time. The One Thing I Can’t Remember About Christmas. And the bigger the issue, the harder it will be to ignore it for long. In fact, here’s what Shaunti Feldhahn found when she did her research for her book, The Good News About Marriage: When Shaunti asks people, “What percentage of couples do you think are happy in their marriage today? The scholars who reject Junia as an apostle are those who need to support their own theology from the Bible rather than letting the Bible create their theology. Please send links to these early church records. They were not Apostles, but worked with the Apostles. When you’re single you don’t really have anyone to call you have to take care of it and it can be very tiring. Just click the pretty, pretty button below to get started. If Paul is holding Peter and his wife up as something he would have the right to, I’d think they must have had a decent–current, ongoing–marriage. But we’ve also done a ton separately. And marriage is the vehicle that God made to fill that longing. And many men have won the battle. The truth is, while I did a lot of work on myself, a lot of it was just looking for a good partner. And while many men believe toxic things about marriage, many more do not. Despite what our reader may see around her, despite what our news media says, despite the startling number of celebrity divorces–most marriages are quietly happy. He says he wants to be with me forever but can’t deal with marriage again. I want to marry you, because you inspire me to be the best person I can be. Everything is great. Learn about healthy and toxic behaviors in relationships. Passion/spontaneity/fun/offspring/years together. I want to marry you, because I want to spend the rest of my life with my best friend. Also, Aquila and Priscilla were in similar ministry roles. But by years 16-20 in marriage, things are really rocking for most of us! Biblical scholars from the early church noted that she was an apostle, Chrysostom most often quoted. I’ve also written a lot about relationships—what makes them good and what makes them bad, why they thrive and why they die, and what you can do to start having better ones. Whenever we take our eyes off of Matthew 6:33–seek first the kingdom of God–we mess up. Singling out your man as the one you chose to marry says that he means more to you than any other dude you've dated: you've identified each other as your this-is-it, once-in-a-lifetime partner. I will find out what kind of humour you like, and I'll get so into it. It's about two people falling in love and wanting to build a life together. We’ve led a ministry at church. That’s right–80% of couples rate their marriages as happy. I’m sure it does in many ways but does the research show that people get happier after they marry or that happier people marry? There are a lot of good reasons to get married. That’s wonderful, Ariel! Lower stress levels. Yesterday we were talking about some of the troubles people can get in when they first marry because we marry thinking that marriage will meet all our needs, and we have some really unrealistic expectations. Sure it’s expensive. The second checklist outlines the GOOD reasons to get married. And there is! 9. This doesn’t mean he will never marry you – but it’s a good measure of how “soon” he will want to do it. My partner of almost two years has recently told me that he does not want to get married. It’s not about what gender performed what function, but that every person was critical in God’s plan. What sucks even more, though, is marrying the next person who comes along simply because you’re tired of being alone—and then they turn out to be terrible for you. God made something beautiful for us. I know this is a pro-marriage blog, but what would you say to those who just think marriage is outdated, pointless, and really only about God “approving” a sex life? Did they survey single people and married people and compare the results or did they survey single individuals and then survey the same individuals after they marry? Any relationship is, and I know this because I spent 10 years of my adult life working on building friendships with ladies who I now know will be there through thick and thin (I married, at age 33, the only man I really dated). Eusebius mentioned it in his history of the church in the fourth century. That’s wonderful! Out of fear that no one else will want to marry you. To save, rescue, or help someone. The first checklist is the BAD reasons people get married. We just adore each other and can’t believe how far we have come! It’s the simple joy of being a mother. Fast forward to today and as a happily married man, I’m honestly surprised by how easy it was for me to transition to a committed, life-long relationship. Because you encourage me when I feel like life is hopeless. The Most Debated Posts on To Love, Honor and Vacuum in 2020! You don’t keep bringing up old issues but instead, you acknowledge when someone messes up and you accept their apology (and they own up to it and change their behavior). You live longer. One of you will have to give up on your dreams, creating a downward spiral of resentment and regret. Someone else knew everything about me–and quite frequently it was my selfishness and pride that was the roadblock to real marital bliss. when people tell me to live up the single life because marriage is so hard don’t understand that single life is very difficult too. And you’re absolutely right that marriage is hard work. Together, both of you have created a new entity that breathes life as a couple. Thanks once again. Maybe your crazy aunt keeps telling you about how “the clock is ticking” and you’re not getting any younger. The furnace breaks down and somebody has to be there to let the repair guy in. You have a lower chance of heart attacks and strokes. But it also means that you have inside jokes. by Evelina Zaragoza Medina. So far, my wife only believes in #8 (share the load) and #9 (children) so far. And here’s the neat thing: the more spiritually and emotionally close we feel, the more the physical kicks in and the more sex feels great. We’ve led a youth group. Trust me (and everyone else with this common advice): “You will just know” when God is telling you who he wants you to marry. See my privacy policy. 6 of 7 I truly Cherish my husband! His final response to me was something to the extent of, “Whatever, I don’t even care anymore,” leaving me crushed. THERE’S MORE!” at you in hopes to hold your attention for more than 30 milliseconds. The Honeymoon Course! Except for his commitment phobia. Is there some way you can communicate when you really need them and are they willing to work with you on it? I have so much joy because I am married–and because I am a mom. A lot of these things aren’t sexy to think about, but again, any issues you have now in your relationship will be magnified in your marriage. You think you are running out of time to get married. You’ll also receive updates on new articles, books and other things I’m working on. I think this is one of the most powerful statements on marriage in any movie, from Shall We Dance (the really good stuff starts at 34 seconds): Certainly some people can turn off their sex drives, sublimate their sexual energy into service for God’s kingdom, and live a fulfilling single life. We have been married just over a year, and I love being married. I’m with you, Erin. If one of you wants to be an actor and live in Los Angeles and one of you wants to live a quiet life on a farm in Idaho, well how exactly is that going to work? Just out of curiosity, why is it so important to you that Peter’s wife not be given the credit due her, too? I want to have been married. 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